With my face behind the lens of the camera, I capture my boy and girl pretending to be grasshoppers along the surf’s edge and catch a glimpse of my own reflection in the camera’s screen. I try not to be bothered when I see the loose skin on my neck staring back at me. But, really? Am I getting a double chin?
Something about putting on a bathing suit every day for a week, paired with no make-up and disheveled, air-dried hair causes me to focus on all my bodily imperfections: the spider veins making their webs across my legs, the uneven skin tones, the jiggly skin along the backs of my arms. When I mention my increasing awareness of this aging body to my husband, he jokingly asks me if I am having a mid-life crisis. “Maybe, just a little one, ” I tell him.
I remember, as a teenager and on into my twenties, feeling self-conscious about my stick-like figure, my fair skin, and the freckles scattered over my face when exposed to the sun. And now, 20+ years later, the stretchy flesh across my belly bares evidence of two pregnancies and gravity shifts any extra weight down to my hips. My sister and I walk companionably along the beach and I notice other women sporting their own aging bodies. I wonder if they, too, hone in on the youth wearing bikinis and golden tans.
In my own humanness, I find myself mourning the gradual loss of my youthful body in the years to come. I am reminded, though, in 1 Peter 3:4, that “beauty should be that of your inner self, the unfading beauty of a gentle quiet, spirit, which is of great worth in God’s sight.” I want to be one of those women who ages gracefully. One who makes the most of what she has to work with on the outside, but also carries herself with confidence, knowing that an inner spirit of godliness dwells within.
I don’t think God minds if I continue to search for clothes that flatter my changing shape and use beauty aids to smooth out my skin and add a little color to my face. At the same time, though, He offers me the true source of unfading beauty. May I always remember to focus on the ultimate beauty product. God Himself.
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July 13, 2012 at 12:48 pm
Moonyeen Rideout
Beautifully written by a beautiful person! Yes, God is the ultimate beauty product. God’s beauty is born in each of us, his beloved creations. He is the potter and we are the clay, molding and shaping each of us to be “love” in his earthly kingdom.
July 17, 2012 at 3:06 pm
kristinblankenship
Thanks, Mom! Love you!
July 13, 2012 at 4:25 pm
homesicklocal
Interesting what we think about as we get older, no? Great picture
July 17, 2012 at 3:06 pm
kristinblankenship
It is, isn’t it? Thanks for stopping by!
July 14, 2012 at 12:30 am
Beth
I am sure many, if not all, women in our age range have these thoughts and feelings. I know I do..but, as you have written so beautifully, it is very freeing to think of God’s ideal of beauty vs. our own human ideal…something to strive to keep focused on when we have those mid life moments that lie ahead.
By the way, I know I am “just your sister”, but for what it’s worth, i just think you have it all..both outward and inward “godly” beauty.You have a sense of style and class that is all your own. I am very proud of how you are making yourself so vulnerable to open your heart and share God’s love with other women in a real and personal way.Love you!
July 17, 2012 at 3:05 pm
kristinblankenship
Thank you, Beth! Your words touch my heart:) Love you!
July 24, 2012 at 8:02 pm
sarah bravo
Hi kristin! I can definitely relate to what you write about. We really do have to try to see our bodies through god’s eyes. I think finding joy in life is what makes us beautiful! Hope you are having a good summer. We are for the most part although kids drive me nuts someday! Take care.
July 25, 2012 at 12:22 am
kristinblankenship
You are so right, Sarah – Joy is a beautiful thing!